I haven't posted in over a year and a half, and it seems the same goes for my ability to process full thoughts. In the "Drafts" folder I have a dozen or so posts, some only a few sentences long, others full detailed descriptions of life; none have of which have been seen by any of the public. Most of the time my reasoning for closing the tab and deciding against sharing is because I think that whatever is happening in my life is really not that exciting or interesting. On the surface I don't have much to report. I skipped senior year, I have some reoccurring back pain but nothing major. My sister was sick for months and that was hard for my whole family, but now she's OK. We moved, I got a new job, I started college....the usual just living stuff that is normal in day to day living. But that's not really the type of thing I would even write about anyway.
If I did post I would write about my struggles with depression and anxiety through the year, how I found something I'm really passionate about and don't ever want to stop studying, and that in all my lightness and smiles, underneath I just feel heavy. I've written posts about it. But I've trained myself to think no one wants to listen.
This is usually where I would stop and close the tab. I have no idea where this is going, but I am tired of keeping everything inside. So I'm just gonna dive right in here.
I did Running Start my junior year and I was super duper lucky to take a history class(and then a Chicano Studies class) by one of the best educators I have ever had. Though he was a dic...tator(his joke) I learned incredible things and thus started me on the path of studying social justice. With the support of my teachers, friends, and parents, I was able to skip my senior year and jump straight in to freshman year at Western Washington University, as a Fairhaven student. I pushed for this jump for many reasons-that I was ready to be challenged educationally was one reason, but the idea really rooted from a strong need for change in my life.
Last winter I completely lost touch with myself. Nearly every interaction I had with my friends and family took incredible effort, and instead of ever addressing how I felt I suppressed it. This was a mistake, for I found that the longer I kept it inside the bigger the explosion was when I finally let it all out. For almost 3 years I have been in a relationship with a great guy and fell madly in love with him. When I started to feel depressed, I wasn't able to process my thoughts or feelings clearly-I always looked for someone to place the blame on the easiest person to blame was the one who was 200 miles away who couldn't physically be there to support me or see how much I was struggling. It was this situation that led me to feel even worse. I couldn't communicate with him like I needed to, which led me to believe that I had lost touch with my ability to explain myself at all. I often drew self portraits, and most often I was portrayed to have been placed in a box; naked, and stripped of my voice completely. I tried to make it seem like it was his fault I felt this way just so I wouldn't have to take responsibility, but that wasn't the case.
Ultimately it wasn't the distance that tore us apart, but the inability to be compatible once we were finally in the same place again. And honestly, I think I did wear him out with how emotional I always was. Countless times I would begin to cry myself to sleep not knowing why, and then cry harder when I felt that I realized that I was keeping him being able to do things he wanted because he was instead having to comfort me. We broke up over the summer and although it was months ago, I still like to avoid thinking about it in detail. It's hard now to be living in the same time town, wanting something I really can't have. The break up was what is best for both of us; issues with compatibility shouldn't be pushed. It's just hard to lose your best friend.
I kept myself busy over the summer with work, which helped a lot. I didn't have time to think about personal things and the presence of my depression seemed to wane. I don't know at what point I felt like I was coming out of the box. In retrospect, I don't think that I did-maybe just that there were more holes poked in it to give me more air to breathe. I started to make friends, something I hadn't done in years, and it was nice.
I moved to Bellingham last month and began my freshman year of University. I was extremely excited to begin the school year. Education matters to me more than social life. I came to college, not because I wanted to get out of the house and embrace my individuality and new found "freedom" as an adult-this was a part of it. My need to see new things and change my circumstances was a huge part of why I moved. But mostly I came to college because I was incredibly ready for higher education and to learn about things that I am passionate about. So when I start to feel sad, lonely, or any other version of the word "down," I remind myself that I'm doing what makes me happy, and that's what matters. Because that is what matters. Moving day, on September 18th I couldn't have been more excited to start this new chapter. And a week later I was ready again to do the exact same thing.
I tried living in the dorms for something like 8 days and, in as simple a way to say it as possible: It wasn't my cup of tea, and I didn't need to stick it out to know that it wasn't going to get better. I began to stress about money and went over my budget for the year dozens of times, always coming up to the same result: I was going to run out of money, and fast. I moved out of the dorms but had no where to live yet, and even though I was technically out a home I didn't feel lost. After about a week and a half, I met some girls who were looking for a roommate to join them in a cute house just a short 10 minute bus ride from the campus. As of yesterday I unpacked my last box and am happy in my new home. I cleaned the bathroom, I did my laundry, I do dishes and have to go grocery shopping and pay bills-and it's more wonderful than I hoped. My roommates are all each so lovely in different ways and I'm extremely grateful that they have been so welcoming, making sure I know this is my home now-a place for me to feel completely comfortable. I'm not completely OK, but I am getting there. I'm meeting new people and going out of my comfort zone more and more, which has allowed me to realize: It is not weak to let go of the things that made up the invisible box which kept me bound. At the very bottom is my version of a self portrait now. Not in a box...but walking out.
If I did post I would write about my struggles with depression and anxiety through the year, how I found something I'm really passionate about and don't ever want to stop studying, and that in all my lightness and smiles, underneath I just feel heavy. I've written posts about it. But I've trained myself to think no one wants to listen.
This is usually where I would stop and close the tab. I have no idea where this is going, but I am tired of keeping everything inside. So I'm just gonna dive right in here.
I did Running Start my junior year and I was super duper lucky to take a history class(and then a Chicano Studies class) by one of the best educators I have ever had. Though he was a dic...tator(his joke) I learned incredible things and thus started me on the path of studying social justice. With the support of my teachers, friends, and parents, I was able to skip my senior year and jump straight in to freshman year at Western Washington University, as a Fairhaven student. I pushed for this jump for many reasons-that I was ready to be challenged educationally was one reason, but the idea really rooted from a strong need for change in my life.
Last winter I completely lost touch with myself. Nearly every interaction I had with my friends and family took incredible effort, and instead of ever addressing how I felt I suppressed it. This was a mistake, for I found that the longer I kept it inside the bigger the explosion was when I finally let it all out. For almost 3 years I have been in a relationship with a great guy and fell madly in love with him. When I started to feel depressed, I wasn't able to process my thoughts or feelings clearly-I always looked for someone to place the blame on the easiest person to blame was the one who was 200 miles away who couldn't physically be there to support me or see how much I was struggling. It was this situation that led me to feel even worse. I couldn't communicate with him like I needed to, which led me to believe that I had lost touch with my ability to explain myself at all. I often drew self portraits, and most often I was portrayed to have been placed in a box; naked, and stripped of my voice completely. I tried to make it seem like it was his fault I felt this way just so I wouldn't have to take responsibility, but that wasn't the case.
Ultimately it wasn't the distance that tore us apart, but the inability to be compatible once we were finally in the same place again. And honestly, I think I did wear him out with how emotional I always was. Countless times I would begin to cry myself to sleep not knowing why, and then cry harder when I felt that I realized that I was keeping him being able to do things he wanted because he was instead having to comfort me. We broke up over the summer and although it was months ago, I still like to avoid thinking about it in detail. It's hard now to be living in the same time town, wanting something I really can't have. The break up was what is best for both of us; issues with compatibility shouldn't be pushed. It's just hard to lose your best friend.
I kept myself busy over the summer with work, which helped a lot. I didn't have time to think about personal things and the presence of my depression seemed to wane. I don't know at what point I felt like I was coming out of the box. In retrospect, I don't think that I did-maybe just that there were more holes poked in it to give me more air to breathe. I started to make friends, something I hadn't done in years, and it was nice.
I moved to Bellingham last month and began my freshman year of University. I was extremely excited to begin the school year. Education matters to me more than social life. I came to college, not because I wanted to get out of the house and embrace my individuality and new found "freedom" as an adult-this was a part of it. My need to see new things and change my circumstances was a huge part of why I moved. But mostly I came to college because I was incredibly ready for higher education and to learn about things that I am passionate about. So when I start to feel sad, lonely, or any other version of the word "down," I remind myself that I'm doing what makes me happy, and that's what matters. Because that is what matters. Moving day, on September 18th I couldn't have been more excited to start this new chapter. And a week later I was ready again to do the exact same thing.
I tried living in the dorms for something like 8 days and, in as simple a way to say it as possible: It wasn't my cup of tea, and I didn't need to stick it out to know that it wasn't going to get better. I began to stress about money and went over my budget for the year dozens of times, always coming up to the same result: I was going to run out of money, and fast. I moved out of the dorms but had no where to live yet, and even though I was technically out a home I didn't feel lost. After about a week and a half, I met some girls who were looking for a roommate to join them in a cute house just a short 10 minute bus ride from the campus. As of yesterday I unpacked my last box and am happy in my new home. I cleaned the bathroom, I did my laundry, I do dishes and have to go grocery shopping and pay bills-and it's more wonderful than I hoped. My roommates are all each so lovely in different ways and I'm extremely grateful that they have been so welcoming, making sure I know this is my home now-a place for me to feel completely comfortable. I'm not completely OK, but I am getting there. I'm meeting new people and going out of my comfort zone more and more, which has allowed me to realize: It is not weak to let go of the things that made up the invisible box which kept me bound. At the very bottom is my version of a self portrait now. Not in a box...but walking out.
Special thank you to Daniella, Dylan, Olivia, Bre, Miguel and the boys, for making sure I had food, a bed, a space to talk, and plenty of love throughout my week and a half of crazy couch surfing. <3 Thank you.